Sex With Shemales

Sex with shemales and trans womenSex with shemales is something that absolutely needs to be talked about more among everyone. It is fun and exciting and feels wonderful but let’s not forget that having sex with a shemale is no different than having sex with anyone else. You must give them the attention they need if you want to keep their interest. Anyone who engages in sex knows that foreplay is important, intimacy is important. Don’t lose sight of that or this will be your last encounter with her.

Sex With Shemales: Think Again

It’s a terrible reality that most men learn what they know about shemales and how they work from watching porn. It gives people this false idea that Shemales are wild horny people running around hard all the time, ready and waiting for the plumber. That’s just not the case. Just like everyone else, they require foreplay and intimacy, as stated above. They’re also much more than shemales; they’re human beings.

Intimacy is a critical factor in every relationship, whether it is a one-time or a long term relationship. It develops at its own speed. Sometimes you will establish rapport and a closer level of intimacy very quickly. That does happen. Other times, she may be more guarded and it will take a little time. It’s ok either way. You’re there to enjoy the moment, and hopefully get to the sex you’ve been wanting.

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What About Their Sex Drive?

Shemales, like anyone else, really vary quite a lot in sexual drive. Some are very horny all the time. Others hardly at all. Sometimes it takes exactly the right person to turn them on enough to crave that sexual attention. In my experience, most shemales are eager to please a man she feels safe and comfortable with. You are what they want and you have what they want! Shemales have told me they want to please a man more than a woman ever would. They value their femininity. They love the attention of a gentleman. Shemales go to great lengths to look incredible and they want you to notice it. You will get wrapped up in her femininity and amazing aura that you’ll feel yourself being swept away. It’s as if you have no control. She is seducing you and there is no return. That’s how it is when a certain level of intimacy is reached.

Different Types of Trans Women and Sex

There are a number of different types of trans women on the transgender continuum. Let’s talk for a moment about different types and what you might expect. First, the term shemale generally applies to a sex worker. They may be escorts, porn models or webcam performers. They are generally very sexual and open to exploring sex with a partner. These are typically the type of trans women that most men think about first, partly because of what they learned watching shemale porn.


Transexuals are those who are seeking to adopt the role of women in their day-to-day lives. Many will undergo hormone therapy which has a tendency to reduce sex drive and usually renders the penis inoperable. Many transexuals will get cosmetic surgery such as facial feminization and breast enhancement. Some transexuals will go fully and have gender reassignment surgery. Post-op transexual women (or simply, women) may blend, sometimes unnoticed, into daily life.  Of course, some transexuals will remain pre-op for a period of time and others will choose to be non-op.


Crossdressers are usually heterosexual men who enjoy dressing as women for the sexual thrill. Honestly, I’ve found crossdressers to be a mixed lot. Some of them are right-wing, religious, heterosexual married men so deeply in the closet that they will recoil at the thought of a man touching them, for fear of being labeled a “faggot.” Sorry, that’s just how I see it. Other crossdressers, however, can be quite pleasant. Some are quite aroused to fulfill their fantasy of being a woman, by having sex with a man. Crossdressers are almost always clear of hormones so they do come equipped with body parts that work. A very quick friendly discussion with crossdressers is likely to reveal which type you’re dealing with.

Drag Queens

Drag Queens are usually gay guys that dress in women’s’ clothing to perform shows and attract other gay men. Most will not seek gender reassignment or hormone therapy, although some will have cosmetic surgery done. I can tell you that drag queens can be quite a good lay! They are very sexual and love to please their men. You will have luck finding drag queens in most gay bars these days. It seems almost every gay bar has the obligatory drag shows. With good reason — they pack the house with horny guys!


Transgender is a blanket term that describes a variety of trans women. The term trans women refers to male to female transgender people, whether pre or postoperative. T-Girls is another common term that simply means trans girls.

There are other terms used in the trans community but these are the most common types you will run into. Having a basic understanding will help you determine whether you want to move forward with intimacy, and how to proceed.

Sex with Shemales

This is the big finale you’ve been waiting for. Having an understanding of the different types of trans women will help you tailor your approach to sex. You’ll need to be a little more gentle and understanding with transexuals and most crossdressers or transgender women. Shemales and drag queens may be quite ready and DTF! Everybody is different so practice your interpersonal communication skills to get there.

My experience is that most trans women want to be treated like women. Make her feel like a woman and she is likely to make you feel very special indeed. Many transexuals and other trans women will need a little extra care to not make them feel like a sex object. They are used to being objectified, so why not try a gentle, reassuring approach. You might even slow down and let her take the lead for a while. Once she relaxes, I’ve found she’s willing to do a whole lot to please her man.

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Practice Safe Sex and Use Good Judgment!

Go have fun. Have all the sex you want but I urge everyone to practice safe sex. Use condoms and don’t take chances with your health. Take a step back if you use drugs or alcohol to the point it puts you in vulnerable situations or makes it more difficult for you to exercise good judgment.

If you haven’t already read them, I highly recommend you take a quick look at my articles where to meet shemales and how to meet shemales for further information.

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